OK, so my friend Susannah suggested I write a post on this the other day when I told them my plans. I have a gift (Tad calls it manipulation - I like to refer to it as ensuring my kid stays in good standing and recognizing the people that spend
every day with her). And for the record, several of my other friends share this same "gift".
Our youngest little one is a firecracker. She is SO funny, ALWAYS smiling, running,
loud and happy. Sometimes I think I should have named her Joy, because that is what she is. You can't help but love her and laugh with her (even when she's up to no good). Many of the people in our life feel her "fighting" spirit is God given and it's why she has flourished so well in spite of her medical issues. So, I was a little worried when she was going into a more serene, structured classroom this year without her older sister to "supervise" her. For the first few weeks she was getting accustom to her surroundings - very quiet, very shy and very on task. Then about 3 weeks ago she felt comfortable to be more herself. And so
ensued a couple of weeks were we needed to help her find a balance between being herself and following the school rules. For a few days there I could tell her teachers' nerves were wearing a little thin. We worked with them and with our baby girl and I think this balance has been achieved and maintained (at least since the middle of last week).
To help make sure no lasting damage was done, I decided to put "operation smooth things" over into action. Yesterday I went to the dollar section at Target and picked up a tube of the Pumpkin Spice body scrub and a
Ghiradelli Chocolate Square for each of the teachers. I then included a note that said "Thanks for helping me through my rough patch at school, I hope my new behavior (and this scrub & chocolate) will help smooth things over!". They LOVED it! I know it's corny and some might think stupid. Yes, I know that this was not
necessary to my child's enrollment at the school, however it was an inexpensive but much appreciated gift that let those teachers know we appreciate their patience. I think too often people don't take time to do this. It's not that we are trying to "buy" our way past our children's bad behavior - that we take very seriously at our house and we addressed with our child. But, it is hard on the teachers (even when they are trained and paid to deal with it) and it's nice to let them know you recognize that.
One of my friends a few years ago had a rough patch with her child at school. She made a little "see no evil, hear no evil" scrapbook for the teachers. It had a page that said "I'm sorry I didn't listen, I promise to do better" (and a picture of her child holding her hand to her ear), a page with "I'm sorry I didn't pay attention, I promise to do better" (with a picture of her child's hands over her eyes), and a page for "I'm sorry I didn't do my best yesterday, I promise to do better" (with a picture of her child looking sad). The teachers LOVED it. It showed them that the parent took their issues seriously, discussed it with her child and most of all it made them laugh!! What ideas or "operation smooth things over" have you used?